How difficult is Adoption of a “white” baby for a married couple ?
Question by Mr Rob: How difficult is Adoption of a “white” baby for a married couple ?
I am open to adopting a child of any race, but my wife, who has been struggeling with infertility for over three years, says she would prefer to adopt a healthy “white” baby, so they child suffers less stigma.
Setting aside the racial/moral questions regarding selecting the race of a child for adoption, I want to know more about how adoption “really” works.
I am of the understanding that its fairly hard to adopt white infants under age 1 in the US, but I don’t know the facts. I’d heard that state agencies used to have preferences for placing children with families of the same or similar race, but that sounds crazy to me.
Is the race of the baby to be adopted more of a public/state run adoption issue vs private adoptions? Are private adoptions the better way to go for this? How much do private adoptions cost?
Just new to this whole scene and have no idea where to start. Thanks.
Everyone on here scheming about trolling is ridiculous. Ever heard of people changing their minds, or questioning a decision after the fact, based on informAtion you’d really wished you’d had at the time? Truth is my wife and I have been PRIVATELY trying for three years…while I PUBLICLY questioned when or whether to start, in part because of genuine concerns after the fact, and part because I was in denial about our infertility struggles. Thanks for showing what petty is really all about. Yes, I’ve had some infidelity problems with my wife in the past, guess what, she has too. Yes, I’ve been with younger women who are eighteen or nineteen because I’m not the greatest husband ever. Not any worse than my wife sleeping with TWO of my best friends. But we’re still married, thank you. Yes, I got a college freshman girl pregnant by accident and pushed her into an abortion against her wishes, and I felt awful awful about it. Guilt riddled. Had a drinking problem, and
Answer by ir682000
Find an agency in your area and attend a free information session. There will be able to answer all of your questions with real statistics. GL.
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