Is it uncommon to adopt a foster child?

Question by bo cherie: Is it uncommon to adopt a foster child?
I was looking into fostering a child with the goals of adopting. I was wondering how rare that is and if it’s common at all? I also want people’s opinions on foster care and foster care adoption.

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Answer by Sophia
I have read that adoption through foster care is a great way to adopt. It is much easier to do financially. You will also spend time with the child before deciding to adopt. However, sometimes the child you fell in love with will never be available to adopt, which can be emotionally painful.

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6 thoughts on “Is it uncommon to adopt a foster child?”

  1. I don’t know any statistics.

    You can request to only foster kids who are legally free for adoption, which means that their parents’ rights have already been terminated, but you will likely wait longer for a placement. Most states are unwilling to terminate kids’ parental rights before they are placed in permanent foster homes because that makes those children wards of the state.

    My son was in foster care from birth. He was in his first foster home for six months and was then moved because the foster parents’ license was revoked. He lived in the next foster home for two years and the foster parents were planning to adopt him but the foster father (who was in his 50s) developed a serious illness and they felt it wouldn’t be fair to adopt such a young child who might lose his father at an early age, so they withdrew their application. That’s when my husband and I were contacted about fostering the boy. We became a foster family hoping to adopt and were only interested in adopting children we fostered. Our son was our first and only placement. It took 23 months to finalize his adoption — from the day he came to live with us until the day we went to court. His mother’s rights were formally terminated only 3 months after he came to live with us.

  2. Some children are in foster care due to temporary issues with their real family. Some start out in temporary placement but as time goes on, the state rushes to terminate the parental rights of the parents. It seems like the state is backwards — terminating parental rights when the parents just need addiction treatment and some help, and being very slow to terminate the rights of parents who are abusive.

    My relative fostered twin boys who had been born with fetal alcohol syndrome. That was not enough to terminate the mother’s parental rights. She kept having weekend visits with them. Even after she hit one of them hard enough to break his jaw, it took months for them to terminate her parental rights so they could be adopted and get away from her. I wondered if they were waiting until she killed one of them to decide.

    By contrast, there are red flags like bipolar disorder that, if social services gets involved with a family, lead them to immediately remove the children or demand mandatory services. This happened to another relative of mine. She had worked for lawyers and could answer their misleading court documents about how bad the situation was with her statements that she was doing all she was supposed to do. They took the notes from her therapist out of context and declared in court that she was a sociopath. Her therapist was PISSED and wrote her own letter to the court. She was lucky that she was determined and intelligent enough to fight the state. It’s scary what happens to those who are less intelligent and resourceful!

    Anyway, once the parental rights are terminated, any foster child is free for adoption. Their worker may still have specifications, like a two parent family. Actually I have seen on AdoptUsKids where some girls would prefer a single mother, a few boys would prefer a single dad. Some specifications also include no other children or only older children in the home, and in some cases it says it would be better if there were no pets in the home (!).

    My relative ultimately adopted four children out of foster care, gave them their name, and she is still their mom.

  3. No it is not uncommon to adopt from foster care. If you are interested in eventually adopting then foster to adopt is the way to go. It is quite a time consuming wait though. And the goal 95% of the time is return home. There is absolutely no rush to get to the termination, as there should not be, but if that Eventually does happen then you have first chance to adopt.

    If you’re only interested in adoption only then you need to go with a private agency.

    I have a very high opinion of foster care and over the yrs I’ve came to know hundreds of foster families.

  4. Foster care adoption is the second-largest “adoption demographic” in the US. The most common form of adoption is “step-parent adoption.” Adoption from foster care is the second largest. Following that is domestic infant adoptions and the smallest subset is international adoption.

  5. YES! My family has two beautiful foster children who are 2 and 3 and we are starting the adoption process now! The only thing with adopting foster children is that the court will always try to “unite the family” and will give the mother as many chances as possible to clean herself up. They also have the option letting them stay with family members that are secure. Out of desperation for more time, the mother will often claim “family members” that don’t exist but the court HAS to check it out because their main goal is to “keep the family united”. So, the adoption process will take forever. We are starting soon, and even if everything works out in our favor, they said it will still be next year before we get them. So it’s a long process and it’s hard because you get super attached to the kids and sometimes they are taken away from you. But if you tell the social workers you are willing to adopt, they will heavily consider you because they hope to place children in good permanent homes as fast as possible. Going into this, you need to remember to not get too attached because some of the kids’ mom will clean theirselves up, which you will hate but love at the same time, or find family members. Don’t get too attached but show as much love as possible because you may be the only person that has shown them love. When we got our children, they came from a very bad home and they both had lice, and the little 2 year old boy knew more cuss words than regular words, and we are sure the little girl was neglected. Fostering will break your heart but it’s such an awesome act of kindness that will change the kids’ and your life! I hope this helped and good luck!

  6. Not uncommon no. But re-think your goals. Many foster parents are foster parents first and foremost. If / when a time comes that adoption becomes an option, the foster parents are at the very top of the list to adopt. They can if they want, or they can continue to foster until an adoptive parent is found.

    But – If your goal is simply adoption, then you can adopt FROM foster care without becoming a licensed foster provider. You’ll just be a adoptive parent.

    Child in foster care – not “foster child”. The child should always come first.

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