Q&A: How to Adopt a baby or newborn in Ohio?

Question by kekes_world: How to Adopt a baby or newborn in Ohio?
I have been typing in the key words “adoption” and “adopt a baby” in the google search bar. All I come up with are international sites offering people the chance to adopt children outside of the country, as well as national site offering parents the “membership” to belong to an adoption agency to work with someone who will help them adopt. I did find a few local websites, such as the Franklin County website, which is a state website for Columbus, Ohio foster and adoption. They only had about 30 or so listing that I can count, and most of the babies had health issues and required special needs care. I am not experienced with caring for special needs children, though my mother is because she is a nurse, so I would not want to put anyone through such an emotional issue.

Most of the agency websites offering parents “memberships” did not upfront tell you that there are costs involved, but I suspect that these websites are selling babies for $ 25,000+ figures because of the testimonials that I read.

I feel that selling babies is a form of slavery, and buying a baby is the most inhumane thing that anyone could do. There are thousands of children needing loving families and a loving home.

How should I go about this the right way? Do I go in person to the state agency and have a meeting instead of searching online? I do not want to pay for a child. I would not be able to live with myself if I did something so low down like that. Anyone who has adopted through a governmental/state agency, what is usually expected from you financially? Do you have to go through court proceedings? It seems as simple as meeting the parents, taking care of a few documents, and then you go home with a new addition to your family… how does it really work?
I expect there to be costs regarding the legalization of the adoption, and other legal fees, however, I still do not get why I have to pay for the child. Why am I paying labor fees for the mother? That does not make sense to me, you must be talking about those people who volunteer their body to be the birth mother for financial gain. That is so wrong in my book. Babies are people with heartbeats, not toys that you can pick off of a shelf.

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Answer by Diann C
Start with the Department of Child and Family Services, they can at least give you the contact information for legitimate adoption agencies.
Adoption is expensive. Most of the time you are paying for the mother’s prenatal care and delivery, then there are the costs associated with the actual adoption.

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8 thoughts on “Q&A: How to Adopt a baby or newborn in Ohio?”

  1. There are not thousands of babies needing a loving home. There are thousands of children past infancy who do. People wait in line for babies. Don’t kid yourself. You may not want to pay for a baby, but you will. If you find a birth mother, you will pay her living arrangements until the baby is born. You’ll pay for your home-study. Then you’ll pay the legal fees. That will probably be more than 25,000 in the end.

    You obviously don’t know how to use google. You need to type in more than “adoption”.

  2. Here goes. I don’t mean to come across as blunt, I just want to get the information across in a very straightforward way.

    The thousands of children who need homes are older children in foster care, or babies with severe health issues. Healthy infants don’t need homes, because they get snapped up as soon as they’re born. There are far more people who want to adopt them than there are babies to go around.

    If you want a newborn, your best bet is to go through an agency, and be prepared to wait as long as necessary. You already know how expensive this is, but it’s not exactly “buying a newborn”. It’s paying the expenses & salaries of the people who work full time matching up adoptable newborns with those who want to adopt them, taking care of paperwork so everything’s legal, etc. Would you do that for free, year after year? No? Neither would they. They offer a service, and there are plenty of people who are willing and able to pay for that service. Sometimes these aren’t the richest parents, but those who are willing to make the most sacrifices financially.

    (I’m not defending adoption agencies in all things, because I believe that many of them are guilty of exploiting and coercing birthmothers. I’m just saying that they need to cover their costs just like any other business.)

    EDIT: “Why am I paying labor fees for the mother? That does not make sense to me, you must be talking about those people who volunteer their body to be the birth mother for financial gain.” What? You honestly expect a mother to pay tens of thousands of dollars in medical fees for prenatal visits, ultrasounds, and delivery, just to hand her baby over for free to someone else? The mother not only loses her baby, but subsidizes the adopter–really? Even if those costs are paid by the taxpayer or private insurance, it’s only fair for the one who gets the baby to reimburse the cost of bringing the baby into the world. Now you’re starting to make me think you’re just a very clever troll, having fun on April Fool’s Day.

  3. The reason why it costs so much to buy a baby is because demand far exceeds supply Adoption agencies will justify the fees but the real truth is it’s down to greed, playing on potential adopters desire to have a baby so will use coercive tactics to ‘persuade’ mothers to surrender. This link gives an idea of current coercive tactics used http://open.salon.com/blog/jessica_delbalzo/2012/03/31/the_5_most_coercive_aspects_of_modern_adoption The tactics used in the BSE time are these although some are still used today http://babyscoopera.com/adoption-articles/adoption-coercion-tactics/

    You are clearly uneducated and referring to expectant mothers is offensive. The offensive term is used for mothers who have surrendered. Mothers who surrender don’t financially gain from surrendering and they emotionally pay for the rest of their lives. Also don’t confuse mothers who surrender with surrogate mothers. Even then surrogate mothers are only supposed to charge for reasonable expenses. In the UK surrogate mothers can’t legally make money from being a surrogate so can only be paid out of pocket expenses.

    You understand babies are human beings so instead of wanting to buy a commodity (the baby) why don’t you do the decent thing and encourage mothers to parent. They don’t sell they babies like you seem to believe. It is rare for a mother to go through pregnancy when she really doesn’t want to be a parent. Far more surrender because they are poor, single, still in education, earn a low income, feel they don’t have a support, they don’t have a choice.

    Instead of buying a baby that has a mother who should be encourage to parent why don’t you adopt from foster care which is much cheaper and those are the children who deserve a family.

    *Shaking my head in despair that you are so uneducated*

  4. Many Chinese haven’t seen many foreigners because of their strict policies. For the longest time Foreigners weren’t allowed into the country, I think in the 1980’s is when China decided to let foreigners in. I lived in China for 4 months and whenever I walked down the street people would stare at me and want to take pictures! It was great! I suggest going there sometime, it’s a great country with amazing people! 🙂

  5. Thank you for these videos. I’ve seen a few of them, so amazing. And congrats on your adoptions. I’m curious, who exactly were the native people taking pictures of you and your family? I’m not sure I understand that part.

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