Why do people adopting children travel internationally rather than adopt at home in the US?

Question by ninfragile19: Why do people adopting children travel internationally rather than adopt at home in the US?
There are plenty of children here in America that I’m sure would love to be adopted, by why are so many people going overseas to countries and paying exorbitant amounts of money and risking more to adopt?

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Answer by Mom2Max
Yes there are plenty of children, but not a lot of babies. It is faster to adopt from overseas and it is somewhat ‘hip’ to have a foreign child (however unfortunate that reason may be)

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13 thoughts on “Why do people adopting children travel internationally rather than adopt at home in the US?”

  1. Each family needs to do what they feel is right for THEM.

    It costs to adopt children no matter where you adopt from. The least expensive method of adoption is a domestic adoption through social services, that is true, but there are some issues with that method that some people wish to avoid.

    ALL children who need parents would love to be adopted, and those in America are no more worthy than those in China. If a person is giving a child a home and family, THAT is the important factor- not where they come from.

  2. Because they want people to think they are heroes, they want to be able to brag “I adopted a baby from china”! and people won’t think as highly of them if they adopt a baby from America. People who adopt children from other countries are very ignorant because most children in other countries are given up because the parents can’t afford to take care of them so why would people take them away from their own country and their own parents instead of trying to help the parents be able to take care of their baby? And there are lots and lots of children here in America who need a home because their parents were either abusive or drug addicts but instead of helping our own people we are helping everyone else and leaving them to be in foster care their whole life.

  3. It’s usually alot easier to adopt from other countries. Waiting time isn’t as long, and there is way less red tape to go through. Also, I hear lots of stories about parents that have adopted and the biological mom changes her mind, here in the states, she would get her child back. That wouldn’t happen if you adopted a foreign child. I’m adopted, and I know my parents were on the waiting list for 7 years before they adopted me. That was in the 80’s, its prob only gotten worse since then. You can usually get a foreign child within a year or so, depending on the country.

  4. Why do people keep asking this question when they could easily search it answered about 50 times using the search button?

    There are plenty of reasons, but I for one cannot adopt domestically due to a disability. They’ll let me do foster care, but not adopt. Yeah, screwy, but that is how the rules are. I know 2 people who adopted internationally because social workers here looked down on non-college educated couples.

  5. Because not all the children in the world who need homes are living in the US and in very poor countries or countries where there’s a stigma against adoption there’s not much chance those children will get adopted.

  6. If you get a baby from overseas, you will not have these kids’ natural mothers on your doorstep asking for visits a la “open adoption”.

    Pay 30K to a corrupt country’s adoption providers (baby sellers), they’ll assure you the child was “abandoned” (important part of the charade) and you whisk this child back to the land of Chevy Suburbans and Mickey D’s. It’s a better life, right? Who’s the wiser?! Plus you’ll get kudos from friends and family for “saving” this little “orphan”. Priceless.

    Now when little Jade asks about her real mama, you can tell her she was left in her village, and that she ought to be grateful she’s not stuck behind a sewing machine making clothes for Wal-Mart, right? That’ll shut her up.

    And Mama? How’s that poor woman EVER going to find her child in Des Monies? ‘Taint happenin’, my friend.

    As many adopters like to say, no “baby mama drama”

    She’s yours free & clear!

  7. This is one of those ‘comparison’ questions. So lets see, starting with your question:

    Why Internationally:

    *People think their ‘wait time’ will be shorter if they adopt out of country ((not necessarily true))

    *They feel weird about adopting a same race child from where they are. So instead of vouching for a Puerto Rican child here, they go in search of one in Puerto Rico. ((Honestly, I don’t think you should feel weird or selfish wanting a same race child in your home.))

    *They are opposed to open adoptions ((Most of the time if you are adopting over seas everything is closed. No chance of the birth parent coming to disturb your family later.))

    *They think birth families over seas are more desperate and less likely to change their minds last minute about adoption. ((I’ve heard this is true. But I’m not actually sure. Sounds a bit iffy to me.))

    *For some reason they think children living in overseas orphanages will not have been exposed to abuse and neglect. ((Child abuse is everywhere sadly.))

    On another hand. Some people are:

    *Fascinated by a certain kind of culture, and have a bond with it. So they want to adopt from there for sentimental reasons.

    *A family member from over seas had a baby and they want to adopt and bring them here.

    *Having a child of a different race makes you -look- good. ((I don’t think this is a good reason for adopting XD))

    Personally. I’m an advocate for Foster Adoption. But, you’ll be getting kids that have been most likely neglected and abused. You have to have a real sound mind, and good hand to know how to deal with children that have past issues so it’s not for everyone.

    Anyway, there are lots of reasons.

  8. because people in the U.S. are mean and make nasty comments on places like here about people who give up their babies and those that adopt babies. People change their minds after they give birth in the U.S. and they are allowed to keep it. There is nothing set in stone until your legal; adoption is final which usually can take up to 6 months AFTER you get the baby. Until this time the biological mother or father are allowed to change their mind and take the baby back.

  9. We chose to adopt internationally after a LOT of research on ALL of our options, including domestic adoption and foster care adoption. After carefully considering, getting lots of input from people who had been there (international adoptees, adoptive parents, foster parents, biological parents, former foster kids, etc) we made the decision.

    Now that said, your question is insulting.

    My children deserve to have a home and family just as much as children born in America.

  10. Yes, there are children in the US…and in Canada and the UK, and Poland, and Spain and Brazil………who need homes. I look upon it as a matter of all of us being citizens of the world first and foremost.

    Personally, I was travelling overseas anyway (for 3 years) so we adopted when we had the chance. As for exorbitant amounts of money…not always. Our adoption was no more then $ 800 US and that covered lawyers fees, all court appearances (of which there were three) and the passport. My employer took care of the visa costs.

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